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Permanent Change

Day 21
Good morning!!! Wow, I can't believe it's already the last day of the fast! Research indicates that it takes 21 days to BEGIN to form or break a habit. 

This fast was only a starter. What are we to do now? 

From some conversations had with many of you, there are people who have been greatly impacted, changed and evoked increased awareness. I recommend you continue to work on ways to make those changes permanent. Sometimes it takes more than 21 days to create or break a habit and that's OKAY. Take the time and re-read the messages and do another 21 days, do 40 days or whatever works for you. 

In the past people have even re-done the fast with a group of people during the year. Do whatever it takes for this to have even the smallest lasting change. The bible says, “And no one puts new wine into old wineskins. For the old skins would burst from the pressure, spilling the wine and ruining the skins. New wine is stored in new wineskins so that both are preserved.” (Matt 9:17). If you have changed and made progress you can't go back to the ways of the past. Now you know better, do better. It will simply be worse to go readopt those negative habits. So take whatever new positive habit you've formed and place it into your new life (new wine skin). 

If this was your first encounter with the Lord I encourage you to get to know more about Him. I'd love to pray for or with you. If you know the Lord I encourage you to continue doing things to assist you to grow in your walk. If you don't have it already, the bible app has (http://www.bible.com/app) great devotionals with daily reminders and verses to keep you growing. This has been such a blessing to fast with you all. I am always open to praying and sharing an encouraging word so don't hesitate if you need to reach out after the fast is over. Thank you for being a part of this fast!! Have a wonderful positive day!! -Monica B. 


#POSITIVITY

Wisdom

Day 20
Positive Surroundings 

Good morning!! It was so awesome to hear people sharing gratitude with others and even personally receiving messages and phone calls of expressing the gratitude challenge. I know many people have busy lives, but I encourage you to live out the challenges of positivity that were presented this week. Now that we are winding down the positivity fast an important factor of maintenance arises. In this process we have to begin to realize who we are to be surrounded by and what things we should allow in our presence in order to move in a more positive direction in life. 


If you haven't done so yet begin to pray that God changes your surroundings and makes you more aware of the things that pull you away from being positive. This could be certain friends, certain music, and certain things you watch on television or even certain places you go. In order to become more positive it is also important to know you are not meant to do it alone. The bible tells us in Proverbs 27:17 that "iron sharpens iron". Some of you have been taking this journey to positivity already with friends or family which is great. Let people you are around know your goals to live more positively so that when they see you slipping they can remind you of who you are striving to be. 

Throughout this fast I have found it to be wonderful in times when things go wrong to have those friends around to remind me that I need to look at or say something more positively. You see, society often encourages us to remain isolated and minimize relationships, or not make new friends, but God wants us in community so that we can hold accountability to each other. This principle goes for far more than positivity but in life (marriage, celibacy, completing school, breaking addiction, etc) we are not meant to do it alone. 

Today I encourage you to start evaluating who is holding you accountable and what surroundings you are in. If you do not have people doing so begin to open up to those around you. If you don't have any positive people around you, I can help connect you to some or help you pray for it. I've heard many great testimonies of people who've asked God for new genuine people in their lives and have received that and much more. Don’t walk this path alone. I hope you all have a wonderful blessed day!! - Monica 


Gratefulness

Day 19

Day 19

Gratefulness Paid Forward

Good morning!! Sorry for the delay today. Early this morning I received a message, the theme of being grateful continued to weigh heavy in my spirit. In reading someone's expression of gratitude, it allowed me to reflect upon my gratitude for the people and things in my life. I then realized the impact it makes in one's life to know and be told that they are appreciated. It was then that the Lord had me realize that although we touched upon not wanting what others have, we truly did not dive into the importance of being grateful. 


Each of us has one thing in common to be grateful for today, which is, if you are reading this, you woke up to see another day! In our prayers let’s not ever forget to tell God the things we are grateful for and not just always asking. He too wants us to acknowledge that we see what He is doing in our lives. The most positive thing we could do is find less reasons to complain and more reasons to express gratitude. Though it may look tough on your end, there are others battling the same situations or worse, and you have been given another day to fight in this life that someone else wasn’t. But remember, you're not fighting alone. God is always with you, His word states in Hebrews 13:5 "... I will never leave you nor forsake you."

Today I challenge you to reflect upon these past 19 days or even this past year if you must and acknowledge all the things and people to be grateful for. In addition to paying positivity forward give someone a call, send an email or a text message, write a note or even make a visit to someone. Make it a point to express to 3 people that you are grateful for something they have done or that they currently do for you (big or small). Even something like “thank you for getting me coffee that day I was really tired”, “thanks you for always smiling in the morning”, “thank you for being there when I needed you most” or even thanking you leaders for the work that they do, the list goes on. These purposeful actions not only work on your heart, but theirs as well. This of all things I challenged I truly encourage EVERY single one of you to do. Simply send me a message saying “Done”. 

I look forward to manyyyyy messages over the week saying “Done”. I am grateful that over 120 of you have given me an opportunity to be used by God in your life these past 19 days. Thank you!!! Have a Happy Monday! - Monica B.


Ready, Set, Serve

Day 15

Ready, Set, Serve

Good morning! We are going into our final week of the positivity fast and I’m so happy to hear the changes many of you have been making. The first 2 weeks of this positivity fast involved introspection, however now we want to apply it all and spread the positivity inter-personally. This weekend I challenge you to participate in at least one random act of kindness and one intentional act of kindness.

An example of a random act of kindness might be paying for the car behind you in the drive thru, leave quarters in the laundromat for the next person, taping a positive note inside a bathroom stall, mailing someone a positive card without your name or return address, doing an unassigned chore, etc. The idea is to pretty much do something kind/positive where you will not get the credit for it. The intentional act of kindness may be offering an umbrella to someone in need, helping the less fortunate, helping someone carry groceries or any positive act of service you complete throughout the weekend.

This weekend you are challenged to take positivity and share it with others. Pay it forward. When you complete a task at any time this weekend simply send a message back saying “Intentional” or “Random”. If you'd like to share a brief story on what you did so that it may provide ideas for others feel free to, so that we can spread more positivity.

Let's live positivity on purpose. Ready, set, serve! 
Have a blessed Friday! -Monica

Wisdom

Day 14
Pride Aside Choose Humility 

Good morning!!! In order to not argue and complain it is important to understand the issues with pride and emphasize humility. An example of this could be when you have an argument with a person, choosing to not feel you have to win,but choosing to allow the Lord to work it out. “Pride ends in humiliation, while humility brings honor.” (Prov 29:23). 

There are so many more positive outcomes in life when we choose humility. The bible speaks of it often. When we look for people to lift us up the foundation is shaky and can be lost at any point in time. When we seek for the Lord to lift us up in His due season we will reap all the good we have sown in humility. We know that we show love when we are not proud and there is such power in love. 1 Cor 13:4 tells us “Love is not jealous or boastful or proud”. 

Let's choose humility today. Begin exposing and burying your prideful ways. How much more of a positive impact can you make when YOU set YOU aside. Have a blessed day!! -Monica

PEACE

Day 12
Letting Go Fear and Anxiety

Good morning!! Many times one of the things that can sneak up and cripple you from being positive is the fear and anxiety of things to come or things going on in your life. In the bible it tells us, “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” (Isaiah 41:10). Why be so worried and anxious about what is to come when you have assurance that as you pray and thank God, He will hear it and answer in HIS way. “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. (Phil 4:6).” If someone told you that you would have one million dollars if only you let go of all fear and anxiety. I’m sure we would have a lot of millionaires. So in reality I am telling you that you can gain so much more if you let go of fear and anxiety. There is such treasure in living a life of peace and joy that no amount of money can overcome. So today I challenge you to "Let it Go"🎶! (Just like frozen lol). 

Make the choice today to step in a new level of trust and to let go and let God. Stop trying your way and worrying about the outcome or fearing the places God is taking you. Choose courage (Joshua 1:9), peace (Phil 4:7), hope and joy (Romans 15:13). So those of you who choose to let go of the fear and anxiety today and give it to God, simply send a message back saying “Letting it go” and I will pray for you throughout the day. Have an awesome day!! - Monica


I want it.


Good morning!! Today I want us to focus on wanting what others have. The last commandment tells us “You must not covet (yearn to possess) your neighbor's house…” Exodus 20:17. Let’s take a moment to reflect on it. How many things have you simply wanted because someone else had it, and it caused you to respond negatively if you were unable to obtain it? This can come easy in a society where advertising is the norm. I mean think about what most ads do, they set you up to see something and make it look appealing to the point that you feel you need it and have to have it or you will feel unsatisfied. How this applies to our day to day is it causes us to not notice how we tend to want what others have. 
              DAY 3
This could relate to wanting the life we “think” someone has, the job that someone has, marriage, baby, (the list goes on…). This leads to negativity because you are not content where God has you and discontentment can cause conflict, depression or even asking/praying to God “why not me”. The more you focus on those things that you do not have the less you can open your heart to appreciate the season you are in and what you do have. Even further do you really want the truth of what the person experienced to get there? Your story is not meant to be anyone else's. I challenge you when you begin to feel that urge to yearn for what someone else has ask yourself, “Why do I want it?”. So let's shift to a positive mindset and begin being GENUINELY happy for those in season of success or breakthrough and being content in our own season as we are being perfected. I mean no one could do a better job at being YOU. Have a positive, content day!!! -Monica

Ready, Set, Reset.


DAY 1
On your marks, get set and reset:
Good morning! Today we begin our journey of 21 days of positive thoughts, words and actions. I know some of you desire this reset but doubt that you can become more positive but let's eliminate even that thought out of our minds. You may consistently deal with doubt and that itself is negative. How do we face doubt? Faith. Even the smallest bit of faith can move mountains (Matt 17:20). I know that your willingness to try this is an action with faith and know that God can change these habits. Let’s remove focus on the things we have done last week, yesterday or even 5 minutes ago. Every conscious effort you make towards being more positive is more important than the past. This is a reset. Let us renew our minds and allow the transformation to begin.
“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” Romans 12:2 - Monica



New Beginnings

January 7, 2015

Happy New Year! It feels good to be in 2015. We are all blessed to have this privilege to start fresh. Each year millions of people began the new year with resolutions and promises that often fall short before January is over. I encourage you this year to simply be the best that you can be. Whether that means, more time with God, more exercise, being a better friend, being a better wife or parent; simply be your best. God will assist you once you make your mind up to do your part. 

I recently read a transcript on a great website "The Christian Working Woman" entitled New Beginnings (The transcript is below!). This transcript was a breath of fresh air for me, and it blessed me immensely, and I pray that it blesses you as well. Be encouraged and remember that you can do anything that you put your mind to. Each new moment is an opportunity to have a new beginning. 

Khalilah
XO

© 2015 The Christian Working Woman January 3, 2015


When I think back over my life, there are many things I would like to change.  I would like to make better choices and decisions, make smarter moves, manage my money better, use my time more wisely—oh, there are many things I could have done so much better.
But mostly, when I think back over my life, I would like to avoid the sins of my past, the times when I wandered far away from God, the things I did in disobedience to him.  I would like to erase those things I did which brought dishonor to his name; those times when I was a poor witness for Jesus Christ and a poor representative of the Kingdom of God.
But of course, there is nothing to be gained by brooding over the past.  Yesterday is gone; tomorrow is only a promise.  The only thing you and I have is today.  So, if we don’t want to have any more regrets to look back on in the future, then we must set our minds and hearts to begin today anew.
How do we do that?  Well, the first and most important thing is to make certain that we’ve been made a new creation in Christ.  That’s where all new beginnings have their start, and without that transformation inside of us, any new beginnings we will attempt will be short-lived and futile.
The Bible says that when you become a new creation in Christ Jesus, the old has gone and the new has come (2 Corinthians 5:17).  It’s the most wonderful new beginning anyone can ever have.  It’s that moment when you pass from death to life—when you are no longer under God’s condemnation because your sins are forgiven and your eternal destiny is assured.
Maybe you have not yet had that new beginning.  If I could sit down and talk with you personally, could you tell me of the time when you recognized your sinful condition, realized you could do nothing about it yourself, and came to God through Christ in humility to ask for forgiveness of all your past sins?  Do you know that you’ve been born again, because Jesus told us that we must be born again in order to be a part of his Kingdom?
You see, most people today have the wrong idea of what it means to be a Christian.  They think it means trying to be a good person, doing good deeds, going to church, being baptized, doing more good things than bad things, and so forth.  Most people are trying to earn their way to heaven by doing good things and being a good person.
But here’s the truth, as the Bible tells us.  None of us is righteous in ourselves, and not one of us can be good enough to meet God’s requirements for holiness.  Therefore, on our own merit we cannot become a new person; we cannot have this new beginning.
That sounds pretty helpless and hopeless, until you realize what Jesus Christ has done for you in order to rectify your dilemma.  He came as the perfect Son of God, died in order to pay the penalty for your sin, and rose again from the dead, in order to purchase for you and me eternal life.  God’s righteous requirements have been met in Jesus, and we are given the opportunity to accept his payment for our sins.
The Bible says that “God made him (Jesus) who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God” (2 Corinthians 5:21).  Jesus took your place and mine as a sacrifice for our sins, so that we could have his righteousness and therefore be acceptable to God.  But this free gift of righteousness has to be accepted and believed.
Have you ever done that?  If not, then that’s the new beginning that you need today.  Nothing else matters as much as making certain that you’ve had this new beginning in Christ, because this determines where you will spend all of eternity—in heaven or in hell.  If you have not yet accepted Jesus as the Savior and Lord of your life, you can do that right now.  There’s no reason to wait.  Just pray right where you are, right now, that God will forgive you of all your sins and give you the righteousness of Jesus Christ.
We’ll be glad to send you more information from God’s Word about this new beginning in Christ which can be yours, but believe me, it is not complicated.  It’s very simple:  Confess your sins, believe in Jesus Christ that he is the only way to God, and you will become a new creation in Christ.
Many of you have done that sometime in your past, but you still feel as though you need a new beginning.  You haven’t walked with the Lord like you should.  Like the old hymn says, you’ve been “prone to wander, Lord, I feel it; prone to leave the God I love.”  What do you do now?   Can you have a new beginning in your walk with God?  Yes, indeed, and here are my suggestions to help you have that new beginning:
Own up to your past.
Don’t live in denial.  Don’t keep shifting blame.  Don’t try to ignore it.  Don’t make up excuses.  Just get it out in the open—first with God.  Confess it to him.  Then you may need to ask others for forgiveness; in some cases that is necessary and important. But call it what it is—sin—ask for forgiveness, and bring it out into the light.  Until we own up to our part in the wrong decisions of our lives, we can never get past them.
Refuse to live in despair.
You don’t have to live in despair, even over your sinful past.  So:
You married the wrong person.
You had an abortion.
You committed adultery or fornication.
You spent money you should not have spent.
You lied to your boss.
You chose the wrong career.
You went to the wrong school.
You walked away from God and the church.
You bought the wrong house.
You ate the wrong food.
You chose the wrong friend.

I don’t know what is on your list from your past, but I know that God wants to make an example of how he can still be glorified, even though your past has been spoiled.
Many times we give up on ourselves, live in guilt and settle for so much less than God wants to do for us, just because we can’t forgive ourselves.  Don’t you know that your enemy wants to keep you mired down in your past?  Don’t let him win.  You don’t have to live in despair and regret, even if you live with the consequences of past sin in your life.
Start where you are and go forward.
The Bible is full of examples and admonitions for us to believe that God can make good things even out of our messes.
Isaiah 51:3:  The Lord will surely comfort Zion and will look with compassion on all her ruins; he will make her deserts like Eden, her wastelands like the garden of the Lord.  Joy and gladness will be found in her, thanksgiving and the sound of singing.
Isaiah 58:11:  The Lord will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame.  You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail.
Isaiah 61:1-3:  The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor.  He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion—to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.  They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of his splendor.
You can be an oak of righteousness, if you will put your past behind you and go forward from where you are.  Yes, even though your past is not what it should be.
I’m here to tell you today that God remembers our frame and knows that we are dust, so it doesn’t surprise him to see how often we wander off.  What must, however, break his heart is to see how we wallow in that sin and allow our past to keep us living in guilt and despair instead of taking our medicine and going forward.  What must break God’s heart is to see how we don’t learn lessons that we need to learn from our past, and we keep making the same mistakes over and over.  It must indeed grieve God to see that we don’t allow him to turn our deserts into gardens and our ashes into beauty.
God can give you the grace to live above your past, even though the effects of your past may last for a lifetime, if you will allow him to do that in your life.  And you will be amazed at how you can find joy and peace and fulfillment and be used of God even though you’ve made some wrong choices and bad decisions.
That’s the kind of God we serve.  He has all power.  He can do anything.  Are you willing to let him take your past and make something good out of it?  Are you willing to stop using your bad choices as excuses for not going forward with God and being a blessing to others?  Are you willing to allow him to put your past behind you so you can be all that God wants you to be? If so, you can find a fresh start today, a new beginning, right here, right now.



Sweet Lips.


What we continually speak will eventually manifest itself into our lives. This happens because the things we speak whether good or bad, right or wrong, negative or positive we will begin to believe and receive. These words are like seeds that will settle within our hearts and eventually grow into large trees (be it healthy or unhealthy). 

It's extremely important for us to be conscious of the things we give voice to.  Have you ever heard the old adage "If  you don't have anything good to say, don't say anything at all"? That concept was right on point. Don't allow your words to create a prison for you by saying things like, "I'll never lose weight", "I'll never get a better job", "Nothing good ever happens to me", I'll never get pregnant (married couples)", "I'll never get married", "No one ever supports me", "I always get the short end of the stick", "I'm not smart enough", "I'm not pretty", "Everyone says I'm not good enough", "They said I'd never do anything with my life...", "I'll always be broke", "I'll never get out of debt", "I can't keep friends", "I'm always struggling"... and on and on and on... You get the picture. NEGATIVE WORDS are seeds of weeds. When we speak them they choke the life out of us, and if we continue to speak negative things over our lives, we will begin to own them, even if we don't want to. 

Practice sweet lips, speaking sweet positive things only, things that will edify your spirit. It will be difficult to get yourself out of the habit of complaining and putting yourself down; but it's not impossible. If you want to change the quality of your life you must begin with changing your words. Take the challenge! For the next week speak positive affirmations about yourself, write them down and post them where you can see them daily. When you're tempted to say something negative, replace it with a positive affirmation. Colossians 4:6 says, "Let your speech be seasoned with grace...", do just that. Season your speech with grace.

Here is a quote I read a few days ago:
"Your words have creative power. With your words, you can either bless your future or curse your future. If you want to know what your life is going to be like five years from now, just listen to what you’re saying about yourself today." - Joel Osteen
Think about it. 

Speak life, sweet lips.


Night of Inspiration!

Hello Journey Mates,

It's summer!! I haven't written in a while, I've been a bit busy! ;) Life happens. But, nonetheless I am grateful for life itself. Trials, test, triumphs and everything in between mold us to be who God intended us to be. I've learned to trust God and go with the flow. He will give us all the wisdom that we'll ever need to be successful in this life. God never promised us that we'd have a walk in the park, but he did promise to never leave us nor forsake (abandon or turn His back) us; and that's good enough for me! 

I posted a video about a week ago and didn't write about it... Sorry... Here is the revised story behind the video (a new post)! Be encouraged & never give up on your dreams!

In 2011, I started an organization with the primary goal of assisting inner city at risk youth with achieving their potential in life. This consists of community empowerment projects, mentoring, youth activities, youth empowerment summits, and academic assistance. These programs have been running successfully and the life's of many youth and their families have been touched!

Earlier this year, I was chosen to attend a fan appreciation dinner by Lala Anthony of (Lala's Full Court Life) and VH1. The dinner was held to appreciate individuals who were doing outstanding things in their community. I was blessed and humbled to spend that evening with an amazing group of talented individuals, great women and men who are doing outstanding things to change the world! People who are living their lives on purpose and inspiring others in the process! It was truly an honor! Lala was so sweet and welcoming; I left that atmosphere charged up, encouraged and ready to do more. You never know who's watching, or what the future holds. Serve from the heart and never give up! XO

Check us out: Project Hope CT


Pics from the evening!






Moving forward in love

I am truly heart broken by the events that took place yesterday in Boston. Continue to pray for those who were affected. 

God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of love, power and a sound mind.

I am because we are

Hello Journey Mates, 
 
I read a beautiful story today that is so fitting as we embark on Black History month. It is my belief that we should strive to learn and understand every races' history, every month, for we won't know where we are going as a whole (human race) without knowing from whence we come.
Enjoy the story. 

Learn. Grow. Change. Lead by example. - XO

         
  "I am because we are"
An anthropologist proposed a game to the kids in an African tribe. He put a basket full of fruit near a tree and told the kids that who ever got there first won the sweet fruits. When he told them to run they all took each others hands and ran together, then sat together enjoying their treats. When he asked them why they had run together, when one of them could have had all the fruits for himself and they said: ''UBUNTU, how can one of us be happy if all the other ones are sad?''
'UBUNTU' in the Xhosa culture means: "I am because we are"
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