Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts

Permanent Change

Day 21
Good morning!!! Wow, I can't believe it's already the last day of the fast! Research indicates that it takes 21 days to BEGIN to form or break a habit. 

This fast was only a starter. What are we to do now? 

From some conversations had with many of you, there are people who have been greatly impacted, changed and evoked increased awareness. I recommend you continue to work on ways to make those changes permanent. Sometimes it takes more than 21 days to create or break a habit and that's OKAY. Take the time and re-read the messages and do another 21 days, do 40 days or whatever works for you. 

In the past people have even re-done the fast with a group of people during the year. Do whatever it takes for this to have even the smallest lasting change. The bible says, “And no one puts new wine into old wineskins. For the old skins would burst from the pressure, spilling the wine and ruining the skins. New wine is stored in new wineskins so that both are preserved.” (Matt 9:17). If you have changed and made progress you can't go back to the ways of the past. Now you know better, do better. It will simply be worse to go readopt those negative habits. So take whatever new positive habit you've formed and place it into your new life (new wine skin). 

If this was your first encounter with the Lord I encourage you to get to know more about Him. I'd love to pray for or with you. If you know the Lord I encourage you to continue doing things to assist you to grow in your walk. If you don't have it already, the bible app has (http://www.bible.com/app) great devotionals with daily reminders and verses to keep you growing. This has been such a blessing to fast with you all. I am always open to praying and sharing an encouraging word so don't hesitate if you need to reach out after the fast is over. Thank you for being a part of this fast!! Have a wonderful positive day!! -Monica B. 


#POSITIVITY

Choose Joy

Day 11

Good morning!! Sometimes being positive is that more difficult because you are in a storm and you are just striving to be happy. Happiness, just as the storm, is temporary. If we are seeking to be happy for these 21 days, then on day 23 we may just fall right back off the positivity wagon. 
Happiness is an emotional state that so much focus is put on but can easily be taken away once a trial occurs or your day is set off. 


Joy is being able to rejoice in knowing that there is not a storm that the Lord cannot calm or remove. I know even in this time some of you are going through some things that make it feel so impossible to be positive. However CHOOSE JOY! Don’t fake it but Faith it. Have faith that you will be able to do all things through Christ who strengthens you (Phil 4:13) and remember there is not a battle that has defeated you because you are still alive to push for another day. I challenge you to start choosing joy daily even in the midst of what you are going through instead of defeat, complaining, or temporary emotions. 

“Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.” (1 Thess 5:16-18). 


Have a blessed positive day!! - Monica

Confidence


Day 4
Good morning!! Confidence can at times be something that blocks us from being positive. Insecurities and doubt can breed much negativity. Many of us have a hard time seeing how our insecurities affect those around us but some of us already know it does. An example may be how you respond in offense to something that is said due to your own insecurities with a certain matter. 

As we reflected yesterday on wanting what others have, we can also lose confidence in ourselves through comparisons to others. Maybe you have someone in your life who you feel is smarter, more attractive, more well off and in turn it causes you to feel that you are not as significant. This can hold you back from your calling or cause you to not walk confidently in your purpose. This may also cause you to be overly critical of yourself and not truly love who you are. We have to have confidence in who we are created to be and even further in our Creator. The bible says you are “I will praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made….” (Psalm 139:14). It encourages you to praise God for the way that He created you. With NO MISTAKES. How much more positive could we be if we praised God for who he made us to be? When those struggles arise, which is common, we have to be able to trust in our confidant who we can lay all these insecurities to. Are you confident in your confidant? (Read Jeremiah 17:7) 


         You're a blessing 

Let’s begin to thank God for who we are and the positive changes we are making. I know that each and every one of you is special and am eager to hear you Confidently being more positive by loving who you are! Have a wonderful day! -Monica

Designing a life you love.

 Hello loves! It's been a while since I've written a blog post. Life has been happening, and keeping me quite busy... All great things! I'm finally done with my academic studies (insert excessive cheering), I'm also working on a few HUGE projects (more details to come - I can't wait to share!). Overall I have to say that life is good.

Life is Good

I'm excited about this summer season, it's one of my favorite seasons (because I adore the beach), and I love warm weather. I'd say that this #Summer16 has had it's share of challenges, but it's also proven to be a season of fruit bearing; meaning seeds that I've sown in past years have began to come to fruition. One vital thing I've been embracing is to be p-a-t-i-e-n-t. Things don't grow (happen) over night, but they will grow in a healthy way with planning, discipline and proper pruning. I encourage you in this summer season to do the same, be patient and make sure you are disciplining yourself and only take on the things that are in line with your life purpose.

If you fail to plan, 
you plan to fail.

In addition to being patient, I'm also learning to appreciate the gift of "No". Purposefully making a conscious effort to not invest my time in things that are consistent with goals and plans during this season of my life. This gift of "No", will be the best thing that you've ever treated yourself to... Trust me! Everything may be a great idea, but if they're not God ideas... Meaning if they have no purpose in your life, you'll be wasting your time and ultimately be consumed with regret and feeling unaccomplished. Do yourself and others a favor, and only engage in projects, events etc. that you know are adding to the purpose of your life. There is a time to assist others in proper balance, however when we are busybodies, we can miss out on God's plan for our lives and cause others to miss their opportunities as well. We all have been blessed with gifts from God to use for ourselves and to help others - stay in your lane!(1 Corinthians 12-27)

Purpose

This weekend I had the privilege of tuning in to an insightful FREE webinar which was hosted by Chrystal Hurst entitled "Living A Life You Love". This event was AWESOME, no seriously, it was reallllly awesome. I took notes and wanted to share some of the nuggets with you, as the webinar has been taken down and you won't be able to view it (sad face). I pray that you're blessed by these practical points which almost anyone can implement, and that you decide today to design a life you love! XO.


Living a life you love 
  • Purposefully surround yourself with people that are embracing and encouraging you to be the best you - Those who love and inspire you.
  • It's okay to have desires, but don't allow desires to rule you. Be honest about what you want out of life and your means to achieve those desires.
  • Give yourself margin to say no - and margin for you time
  • Intentionally think about what your end goal is and what you need to do to accomplish it and make adjustments.
  • Protect your time & prioritize your commitments 
  • Just because you can do it, doesn't mean  you should - (In any area of life, financially, activities etc.) 
  • Don't base your actions on your feelings - feelings change like the wind. Your actions should be based on your desired outcome,
  • Figure out how to merge the life you want with the life you have. 
  • Don't wait for the next day, month or season to do things you love - do them today! 
  • SPEAK LIFE: write positive affirmation on sticky notes, write in a journal, mediate on God's word, choose to be optimistic. Don't just think it, speak it! Philippians 4:8
  • Choose one thing a day that makes you happy, and do it! 

                                  Remember the joy of the Lord is your strength
     Make time to be in His presence daily

    Psalm  91

    FYI - Chrystal is hosting another webinar "Living a Life you Love - Online Class" in a few weeks!




    New Beginnings

    January 7, 2015

    Happy New Year! It feels good to be in 2015. We are all blessed to have this privilege to start fresh. Each year millions of people began the new year with resolutions and promises that often fall short before January is over. I encourage you this year to simply be the best that you can be. Whether that means, more time with God, more exercise, being a better friend, being a better wife or parent; simply be your best. God will assist you once you make your mind up to do your part. 

    I recently read a transcript on a great website "The Christian Working Woman" entitled New Beginnings (The transcript is below!). This transcript was a breath of fresh air for me, and it blessed me immensely, and I pray that it blesses you as well. Be encouraged and remember that you can do anything that you put your mind to. Each new moment is an opportunity to have a new beginning. 

    Khalilah
    XO

    © 2015 The Christian Working Woman January 3, 2015


    When I think back over my life, there are many things I would like to change.  I would like to make better choices and decisions, make smarter moves, manage my money better, use my time more wisely—oh, there are many things I could have done so much better.
    But mostly, when I think back over my life, I would like to avoid the sins of my past, the times when I wandered far away from God, the things I did in disobedience to him.  I would like to erase those things I did which brought dishonor to his name; those times when I was a poor witness for Jesus Christ and a poor representative of the Kingdom of God.
    But of course, there is nothing to be gained by brooding over the past.  Yesterday is gone; tomorrow is only a promise.  The only thing you and I have is today.  So, if we don’t want to have any more regrets to look back on in the future, then we must set our minds and hearts to begin today anew.
    How do we do that?  Well, the first and most important thing is to make certain that we’ve been made a new creation in Christ.  That’s where all new beginnings have their start, and without that transformation inside of us, any new beginnings we will attempt will be short-lived and futile.
    The Bible says that when you become a new creation in Christ Jesus, the old has gone and the new has come (2 Corinthians 5:17).  It’s the most wonderful new beginning anyone can ever have.  It’s that moment when you pass from death to life—when you are no longer under God’s condemnation because your sins are forgiven and your eternal destiny is assured.
    Maybe you have not yet had that new beginning.  If I could sit down and talk with you personally, could you tell me of the time when you recognized your sinful condition, realized you could do nothing about it yourself, and came to God through Christ in humility to ask for forgiveness of all your past sins?  Do you know that you’ve been born again, because Jesus told us that we must be born again in order to be a part of his Kingdom?
    You see, most people today have the wrong idea of what it means to be a Christian.  They think it means trying to be a good person, doing good deeds, going to church, being baptized, doing more good things than bad things, and so forth.  Most people are trying to earn their way to heaven by doing good things and being a good person.
    But here’s the truth, as the Bible tells us.  None of us is righteous in ourselves, and not one of us can be good enough to meet God’s requirements for holiness.  Therefore, on our own merit we cannot become a new person; we cannot have this new beginning.
    That sounds pretty helpless and hopeless, until you realize what Jesus Christ has done for you in order to rectify your dilemma.  He came as the perfect Son of God, died in order to pay the penalty for your sin, and rose again from the dead, in order to purchase for you and me eternal life.  God’s righteous requirements have been met in Jesus, and we are given the opportunity to accept his payment for our sins.
    The Bible says that “God made him (Jesus) who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God” (2 Corinthians 5:21).  Jesus took your place and mine as a sacrifice for our sins, so that we could have his righteousness and therefore be acceptable to God.  But this free gift of righteousness has to be accepted and believed.
    Have you ever done that?  If not, then that’s the new beginning that you need today.  Nothing else matters as much as making certain that you’ve had this new beginning in Christ, because this determines where you will spend all of eternity—in heaven or in hell.  If you have not yet accepted Jesus as the Savior and Lord of your life, you can do that right now.  There’s no reason to wait.  Just pray right where you are, right now, that God will forgive you of all your sins and give you the righteousness of Jesus Christ.
    We’ll be glad to send you more information from God’s Word about this new beginning in Christ which can be yours, but believe me, it is not complicated.  It’s very simple:  Confess your sins, believe in Jesus Christ that he is the only way to God, and you will become a new creation in Christ.
    Many of you have done that sometime in your past, but you still feel as though you need a new beginning.  You haven’t walked with the Lord like you should.  Like the old hymn says, you’ve been “prone to wander, Lord, I feel it; prone to leave the God I love.”  What do you do now?   Can you have a new beginning in your walk with God?  Yes, indeed, and here are my suggestions to help you have that new beginning:
    Own up to your past.
    Don’t live in denial.  Don’t keep shifting blame.  Don’t try to ignore it.  Don’t make up excuses.  Just get it out in the open—first with God.  Confess it to him.  Then you may need to ask others for forgiveness; in some cases that is necessary and important. But call it what it is—sin—ask for forgiveness, and bring it out into the light.  Until we own up to our part in the wrong decisions of our lives, we can never get past them.
    Refuse to live in despair.
    You don’t have to live in despair, even over your sinful past.  So:
    You married the wrong person.
    You had an abortion.
    You committed adultery or fornication.
    You spent money you should not have spent.
    You lied to your boss.
    You chose the wrong career.
    You went to the wrong school.
    You walked away from God and the church.
    You bought the wrong house.
    You ate the wrong food.
    You chose the wrong friend.

    I don’t know what is on your list from your past, but I know that God wants to make an example of how he can still be glorified, even though your past has been spoiled.
    Many times we give up on ourselves, live in guilt and settle for so much less than God wants to do for us, just because we can’t forgive ourselves.  Don’t you know that your enemy wants to keep you mired down in your past?  Don’t let him win.  You don’t have to live in despair and regret, even if you live with the consequences of past sin in your life.
    Start where you are and go forward.
    The Bible is full of examples and admonitions for us to believe that God can make good things even out of our messes.
    Isaiah 51:3:  The Lord will surely comfort Zion and will look with compassion on all her ruins; he will make her deserts like Eden, her wastelands like the garden of the Lord.  Joy and gladness will be found in her, thanksgiving and the sound of singing.
    Isaiah 58:11:  The Lord will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame.  You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail.
    Isaiah 61:1-3:  The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor.  He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion—to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.  They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of his splendor.
    You can be an oak of righteousness, if you will put your past behind you and go forward from where you are.  Yes, even though your past is not what it should be.
    I’m here to tell you today that God remembers our frame and knows that we are dust, so it doesn’t surprise him to see how often we wander off.  What must, however, break his heart is to see how we wallow in that sin and allow our past to keep us living in guilt and despair instead of taking our medicine and going forward.  What must break God’s heart is to see how we don’t learn lessons that we need to learn from our past, and we keep making the same mistakes over and over.  It must indeed grieve God to see that we don’t allow him to turn our deserts into gardens and our ashes into beauty.
    God can give you the grace to live above your past, even though the effects of your past may last for a lifetime, if you will allow him to do that in your life.  And you will be amazed at how you can find joy and peace and fulfillment and be used of God even though you’ve made some wrong choices and bad decisions.
    That’s the kind of God we serve.  He has all power.  He can do anything.  Are you willing to let him take your past and make something good out of it?  Are you willing to stop using your bad choices as excuses for not going forward with God and being a blessing to others?  Are you willing to allow him to put your past behind you so you can be all that God wants you to be? If so, you can find a fresh start today, a new beginning, right here, right now.



    Sweet Lips.


    What we continually speak will eventually manifest itself into our lives. This happens because the things we speak whether good or bad, right or wrong, negative or positive we will begin to believe and receive. These words are like seeds that will settle within our hearts and eventually grow into large trees (be it healthy or unhealthy). 

    It's extremely important for us to be conscious of the things we give voice to.  Have you ever heard the old adage "If  you don't have anything good to say, don't say anything at all"? That concept was right on point. Don't allow your words to create a prison for you by saying things like, "I'll never lose weight", "I'll never get a better job", "Nothing good ever happens to me", I'll never get pregnant (married couples)", "I'll never get married", "No one ever supports me", "I always get the short end of the stick", "I'm not smart enough", "I'm not pretty", "Everyone says I'm not good enough", "They said I'd never do anything with my life...", "I'll always be broke", "I'll never get out of debt", "I can't keep friends", "I'm always struggling"... and on and on and on... You get the picture. NEGATIVE WORDS are seeds of weeds. When we speak them they choke the life out of us, and if we continue to speak negative things over our lives, we will begin to own them, even if we don't want to. 

    Practice sweet lips, speaking sweet positive things only, things that will edify your spirit. It will be difficult to get yourself out of the habit of complaining and putting yourself down; but it's not impossible. If you want to change the quality of your life you must begin with changing your words. Take the challenge! For the next week speak positive affirmations about yourself, write them down and post them where you can see them daily. When you're tempted to say something negative, replace it with a positive affirmation. Colossians 4:6 says, "Let your speech be seasoned with grace...", do just that. Season your speech with grace.

    Here is a quote I read a few days ago:
    "Your words have creative power. With your words, you can either bless your future or curse your future. If you want to know what your life is going to be like five years from now, just listen to what you’re saying about yourself today." - Joel Osteen
    Think about it. 

    Speak life, sweet lips.


    JOY



    Hello & Happy Tuesday!

    About 5 days ago, I challenged myself to write "a blog a day" along with many other bloggers for the month of August... Well... I haven't written one since August 1st! SMH (Shaking my head)

    So, I'm getting back on track! Life happens, and although my initial thought after I failed to post on day two was to quit, I won't! (Go me!!)

    Today, I was inspired by a fellow Twitter-Sister Shari and her blog post on friends (What's a girl to do when she has beautiful friends? ). Her post was real and relevant; typical "women stuff". After reading it, I began thinking about life and lots of other things... Today's post reflects my thoughts! Enjoy!

    As women we have the naughty habit of comparing ourselves to other women; those we know and those we don't. These comparisons can be very stressful especially when we are comparing ourselves to people that we don't know; like sister-friends that we interact with on social networks. I'm not ashamed to admit that I've fallen victim to this bad habit... I'll see someone online and think to myself "Wow, she's really got her stuff together! Great career or budding entrepreneur, great relationship, cute kids..." And those internal thoughts can go on and on and on and on... (You get the picture).

    Well, the fact of the matter is no one has it all together! As much as we all try to make it work and look good, everyone of us has issues; some BIG, some small. Whatever the issues, be it: relationship issues, financial issues, career issues, school issues, home issues, family issues, life purpose issues, hair issues, skin issues, feet issues, insecurities, etc... (You get the picture - Smile).

    If we allow these negative thoughts and comparisons to take root and began to control us we'll never be content in life. There will always be another woman who looks better, cooks better, has better hair, drives a nicer car, has a bigger house, has cuter kids, has a nicer husband, has more education, has more money, has cuter clothes & shoes, has a better handbag, has softer hair, has longer hair, has better nails, cuter feet, etc... (You get the picture). What we have to do is count the blessings that we do have, instead of counting the ones that we don't. Just the simple fact that most of us can turn on the faucet and have clean drinking water is a blessing (one that we often take for granted).

    Allow yourself to be inspired, by other women, but never envious. Envy will lead to comparison, which in turn can lead to depression and motivation for the wrong reasons. God created all of us for a specific purpose. Embrace your life, gifts and talents. Be inspired, don't beat yourself down. If you ever feel that little comparison thief rising up, speak out loud against it! Say something like "It's awesome to see her doing so well, if she can do great things I know I can".

    Be Inspired, to inspire another. LoveLIFE! XO 

    A man I've never met


    Thursday, August 1st, 2013

    Today I spoke at the funeral of a man I've never met. He was a husband, father, brother uncle and friend to many. As I sat at the funeral home, unable to relate to the family in regards to losing someone that I knew and would miss, I could relate however to losing a loved one (I lost my grandfather last month).
     I felt a bit out of sorts, because I had no emotion for this man... No sadness, memories or stories... I felt numb almost... I felt like an intruder... But I was asked to read a special poem by a dear friend who is close to my heart, and so I obliged. 

    [First and foremost I'd like to say that if you're reading this and you don't have life insurance... PLEASE GET SOME! Even if the policy is 5-10k. Each day that God allows us to grace this earth with our presence is a gift; the next day or the rest of the current day that we're in for that matter aren't promised to us. Don't leave your family and friends to be stressed financially to bury you. We see it all too often, a loved one dies suddenly, and families are forced to come up with thousands of dollars to meet an extensive budget to pay for a funeral.]

    Funerals have a weird way of putting things into perspective. For the past week, I've been a bit out of it... There has been a lot going on in my life, and I haven't been managing my time properly which = being stressed out. When we don't manage our time properly, we are ineffective in our day to day dealings. We're unable to meet goals, accomplish simple tasks  and we're not focused or fulfilled. This can lead us to feel unaccomplished, and if we wallow in that feeling long enough it can push us into a rut. 

    With that being said, many times we worry about things that really don't matter. We overwhelm ourselves with things that won't matter at the end of our lives. Just think about the things that you stress yourself with for a moment... Now think, if today was your last day on earth would those things matter? No, they wouldn't. Take time today to simplify. Take some time to refocus and reorganize your thoughts before you take on any external projects, write out your new goals, tasks, and breathe! Life is so precious. 

    Enjoy the rest of your day! 




    Morning Goodness: Trust God's Timing



    A PRAYER FOR TODAY

    Father, I choose to trust in Your timing. I trust that You have my best in mind. I believe that You are working behind the scenes on my behalf. Thank You for ordering my steps and leading me in the life of blessing You have in store for me in Jesus’ name. Amen.
    — Joel & Victoria Osteen

    In life it's very easy for us to become discouraged and loose heart because of the things going on around us or happening to us. I myself have also faced these types of challenges and have felt discouraged and overwhelmed. But I have found that putting my trust in the Lord gives me peace. When I don't understand and can't seem to make any of the pieces fit into the puzzle, I've learned to give the "puzzle" to Him. He knows what to do with it and he is the only one who has the answers I seek. We stress ourselves when we continually try to control and manage things, people and situations that were never intended for us to control. Release all of your cares to Him.

    1 Peter 5:7 (NIV) Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.

    Trust His timing. Trust Him.

    Have a wonderland morning. XO
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