Friendship.

When you think about the word friendship what comes to mind? Are you flooded with happy thoughts and warm memories of those you love, or are you flooded with thoughts of hurt, betrayal and disappointment?  God’s design for friendship was to bless and nourish our lives. These relationships were meant to be fulfilling, lasting, encouraging and life changing. However, this is rarely the case today; those who have experienced true friendship know this.

Proverbs 27:17 (NIV) states:

17 As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.

Friendship should sharpen you; it should make you a better person. The support, love and faithfulness of true friends manifest the best qualities within us. There is something special about being able to spend time or chat with a friend uninhibited. Being able to trust that you’re able to share your thought, dreams, and fears in a safe environment, with someone who loves you and has your best interest at heart. A friend doesn’t always agree with you, but a friend will support you and communicate to you if and when you’re not making the best decisions.  Healthy friendships support growth.

Charles Stanley, a great bible teacher once stated that, “independence is a prized attribute in our culture, but biblically, it isn’t a worthy aspiration. Nowhere in Scripture will you find the erroneous quote, “God helps those who help themselves.” The very fact that the Lord formed the church—a community of believers—should tell us that He did not create people for self-sufficiency or isolation.”

Friendship is God’s design.

 

1 Corinthians 15:33(NIV) states:  Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”

 

What type of friends do you have? Do your friends encourage you to do things contrary to the way you desire your life to go. Do your friends encourage or support destructive behaviors? Think about your friendships, and if they are the best relationships for you.

Below are some tips for strengthening and building healthy friendships:
  1. Nurture your friendships: Take time to invest in them, and be available.
  2. Don't allow comparisons or jealousy to sneak in: Rejoice when your friends rejoice, and share in their burdens with them.
  3. Pray for your friends: Guard their conversations and or prayers with honor. Don't be a gossiper.
  4. Encourage your friends: Assist your friends when you’re able to. Let them know you value their friendship.
The key to friendship is vulnerability and communication. You must become vulnerable. You must have trust, and honesty. You must invest in the relationship, and you must have open communication.

New Beginnings

January 7, 2015

Happy New Year! It feels good to be in 2015. We are all blessed to have this privilege to start fresh. Each year millions of people began the new year with resolutions and promises that often fall short before January is over. I encourage you this year to simply be the best that you can be. Whether that means, more time with God, more exercise, being a better friend, being a better wife or parent; simply be your best. God will assist you once you make your mind up to do your part. 

I recently read a transcript on a great website "The Christian Working Woman" entitled New Beginnings (The transcript is below!). This transcript was a breath of fresh air for me, and it blessed me immensely, and I pray that it blesses you as well. Be encouraged and remember that you can do anything that you put your mind to. Each new moment is an opportunity to have a new beginning. 

Khalilah
XO

© 2015 The Christian Working Woman January 3, 2015


When I think back over my life, there are many things I would like to change.  I would like to make better choices and decisions, make smarter moves, manage my money better, use my time more wisely—oh, there are many things I could have done so much better.
But mostly, when I think back over my life, I would like to avoid the sins of my past, the times when I wandered far away from God, the things I did in disobedience to him.  I would like to erase those things I did which brought dishonor to his name; those times when I was a poor witness for Jesus Christ and a poor representative of the Kingdom of God.
But of course, there is nothing to be gained by brooding over the past.  Yesterday is gone; tomorrow is only a promise.  The only thing you and I have is today.  So, if we don’t want to have any more regrets to look back on in the future, then we must set our minds and hearts to begin today anew.
How do we do that?  Well, the first and most important thing is to make certain that we’ve been made a new creation in Christ.  That’s where all new beginnings have their start, and without that transformation inside of us, any new beginnings we will attempt will be short-lived and futile.
The Bible says that when you become a new creation in Christ Jesus, the old has gone and the new has come (2 Corinthians 5:17).  It’s the most wonderful new beginning anyone can ever have.  It’s that moment when you pass from death to life—when you are no longer under God’s condemnation because your sins are forgiven and your eternal destiny is assured.
Maybe you have not yet had that new beginning.  If I could sit down and talk with you personally, could you tell me of the time when you recognized your sinful condition, realized you could do nothing about it yourself, and came to God through Christ in humility to ask for forgiveness of all your past sins?  Do you know that you’ve been born again, because Jesus told us that we must be born again in order to be a part of his Kingdom?
You see, most people today have the wrong idea of what it means to be a Christian.  They think it means trying to be a good person, doing good deeds, going to church, being baptized, doing more good things than bad things, and so forth.  Most people are trying to earn their way to heaven by doing good things and being a good person.
But here’s the truth, as the Bible tells us.  None of us is righteous in ourselves, and not one of us can be good enough to meet God’s requirements for holiness.  Therefore, on our own merit we cannot become a new person; we cannot have this new beginning.
That sounds pretty helpless and hopeless, until you realize what Jesus Christ has done for you in order to rectify your dilemma.  He came as the perfect Son of God, died in order to pay the penalty for your sin, and rose again from the dead, in order to purchase for you and me eternal life.  God’s righteous requirements have been met in Jesus, and we are given the opportunity to accept his payment for our sins.
The Bible says that “God made him (Jesus) who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God” (2 Corinthians 5:21).  Jesus took your place and mine as a sacrifice for our sins, so that we could have his righteousness and therefore be acceptable to God.  But this free gift of righteousness has to be accepted and believed.
Have you ever done that?  If not, then that’s the new beginning that you need today.  Nothing else matters as much as making certain that you’ve had this new beginning in Christ, because this determines where you will spend all of eternity—in heaven or in hell.  If you have not yet accepted Jesus as the Savior and Lord of your life, you can do that right now.  There’s no reason to wait.  Just pray right where you are, right now, that God will forgive you of all your sins and give you the righteousness of Jesus Christ.
We’ll be glad to send you more information from God’s Word about this new beginning in Christ which can be yours, but believe me, it is not complicated.  It’s very simple:  Confess your sins, believe in Jesus Christ that he is the only way to God, and you will become a new creation in Christ.
Many of you have done that sometime in your past, but you still feel as though you need a new beginning.  You haven’t walked with the Lord like you should.  Like the old hymn says, you’ve been “prone to wander, Lord, I feel it; prone to leave the God I love.”  What do you do now?   Can you have a new beginning in your walk with God?  Yes, indeed, and here are my suggestions to help you have that new beginning:
Own up to your past.
Don’t live in denial.  Don’t keep shifting blame.  Don’t try to ignore it.  Don’t make up excuses.  Just get it out in the open—first with God.  Confess it to him.  Then you may need to ask others for forgiveness; in some cases that is necessary and important. But call it what it is—sin—ask for forgiveness, and bring it out into the light.  Until we own up to our part in the wrong decisions of our lives, we can never get past them.
Refuse to live in despair.
You don’t have to live in despair, even over your sinful past.  So:
You married the wrong person.
You had an abortion.
You committed adultery or fornication.
You spent money you should not have spent.
You lied to your boss.
You chose the wrong career.
You went to the wrong school.
You walked away from God and the church.
You bought the wrong house.
You ate the wrong food.
You chose the wrong friend.

I don’t know what is on your list from your past, but I know that God wants to make an example of how he can still be glorified, even though your past has been spoiled.
Many times we give up on ourselves, live in guilt and settle for so much less than God wants to do for us, just because we can’t forgive ourselves.  Don’t you know that your enemy wants to keep you mired down in your past?  Don’t let him win.  You don’t have to live in despair and regret, even if you live with the consequences of past sin in your life.
Start where you are and go forward.
The Bible is full of examples and admonitions for us to believe that God can make good things even out of our messes.
Isaiah 51:3:  The Lord will surely comfort Zion and will look with compassion on all her ruins; he will make her deserts like Eden, her wastelands like the garden of the Lord.  Joy and gladness will be found in her, thanksgiving and the sound of singing.
Isaiah 58:11:  The Lord will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame.  You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail.
Isaiah 61:1-3:  The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor.  He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion—to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.  They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of his splendor.
You can be an oak of righteousness, if you will put your past behind you and go forward from where you are.  Yes, even though your past is not what it should be.
I’m here to tell you today that God remembers our frame and knows that we are dust, so it doesn’t surprise him to see how often we wander off.  What must, however, break his heart is to see how we wallow in that sin and allow our past to keep us living in guilt and despair instead of taking our medicine and going forward.  What must break God’s heart is to see how we don’t learn lessons that we need to learn from our past, and we keep making the same mistakes over and over.  It must indeed grieve God to see that we don’t allow him to turn our deserts into gardens and our ashes into beauty.
God can give you the grace to live above your past, even though the effects of your past may last for a lifetime, if you will allow him to do that in your life.  And you will be amazed at how you can find joy and peace and fulfillment and be used of God even though you’ve made some wrong choices and bad decisions.
That’s the kind of God we serve.  He has all power.  He can do anything.  Are you willing to let him take your past and make something good out of it?  Are you willing to stop using your bad choices as excuses for not going forward with God and being a blessing to others?  Are you willing to allow him to put your past behind you so you can be all that God wants you to be? If so, you can find a fresh start today, a new beginning, right here, right now.



Sweet Lips.


What we continually speak will eventually manifest itself into our lives. This happens because the things we speak whether good or bad, right or wrong, negative or positive we will begin to believe and receive. These words are like seeds that will settle within our hearts and eventually grow into large trees (be it healthy or unhealthy). 

It's extremely important for us to be conscious of the things we give voice to.  Have you ever heard the old adage "If  you don't have anything good to say, don't say anything at all"? That concept was right on point. Don't allow your words to create a prison for you by saying things like, "I'll never lose weight", "I'll never get a better job", "Nothing good ever happens to me", I'll never get pregnant (married couples)", "I'll never get married", "No one ever supports me", "I always get the short end of the stick", "I'm not smart enough", "I'm not pretty", "Everyone says I'm not good enough", "They said I'd never do anything with my life...", "I'll always be broke", "I'll never get out of debt", "I can't keep friends", "I'm always struggling"... and on and on and on... You get the picture. NEGATIVE WORDS are seeds of weeds. When we speak them they choke the life out of us, and if we continue to speak negative things over our lives, we will begin to own them, even if we don't want to. 

Practice sweet lips, speaking sweet positive things only, things that will edify your spirit. It will be difficult to get yourself out of the habit of complaining and putting yourself down; but it's not impossible. If you want to change the quality of your life you must begin with changing your words. Take the challenge! For the next week speak positive affirmations about yourself, write them down and post them where you can see them daily. When you're tempted to say something negative, replace it with a positive affirmation. Colossians 4:6 says, "Let your speech be seasoned with grace...", do just that. Season your speech with grace.

Here is a quote I read a few days ago:
"Your words have creative power. With your words, you can either bless your future or curse your future. If you want to know what your life is going to be like five years from now, just listen to what you’re saying about yourself today." - Joel Osteen
Think about it. 

Speak life, sweet lips.


Keep Going!


Hey Girl! Yeah you! Heeeey!!! (Waving hello)

I just want to encourage you to never give up! No matter what's going on in life, keep going. Trust me I know, life gets hard! Things come up that have the force to knock you off your feet, and into the dirt. If you ever find yourself in the dirt, pick yourself up and keep going forward; slow progress is better than no progress!

During my morning devotional (Trusting God Day by Day) time today I read something by Joyce Meyer that really encouraged me. She wrote "It's normally during the time that you are pressed to give up that you are closet to your break through and or blessing [not verbatim].

Check out this picture:

Enough seen! Keep going. Be Encouraged! XO



JOY



Hello & Happy Tuesday!

About 5 days ago, I challenged myself to write "a blog a day" along with many other bloggers for the month of August... Well... I haven't written one since August 1st! SMH (Shaking my head)

So, I'm getting back on track! Life happens, and although my initial thought after I failed to post on day two was to quit, I won't! (Go me!!)

Today, I was inspired by a fellow Twitter-Sister Shari and her blog post on friends (What's a girl to do when she has beautiful friends? ). Her post was real and relevant; typical "women stuff". After reading it, I began thinking about life and lots of other things... Today's post reflects my thoughts! Enjoy!

As women we have the naughty habit of comparing ourselves to other women; those we know and those we don't. These comparisons can be very stressful especially when we are comparing ourselves to people that we don't know; like sister-friends that we interact with on social networks. I'm not ashamed to admit that I've fallen victim to this bad habit... I'll see someone online and think to myself "Wow, she's really got her stuff together! Great career or budding entrepreneur, great relationship, cute kids..." And those internal thoughts can go on and on and on and on... (You get the picture).

Well, the fact of the matter is no one has it all together! As much as we all try to make it work and look good, everyone of us has issues; some BIG, some small. Whatever the issues, be it: relationship issues, financial issues, career issues, school issues, home issues, family issues, life purpose issues, hair issues, skin issues, feet issues, insecurities, etc... (You get the picture - Smile).

If we allow these negative thoughts and comparisons to take root and began to control us we'll never be content in life. There will always be another woman who looks better, cooks better, has better hair, drives a nicer car, has a bigger house, has cuter kids, has a nicer husband, has more education, has more money, has cuter clothes & shoes, has a better handbag, has softer hair, has longer hair, has better nails, cuter feet, etc... (You get the picture). What we have to do is count the blessings that we do have, instead of counting the ones that we don't. Just the simple fact that most of us can turn on the faucet and have clean drinking water is a blessing (one that we often take for granted).

Allow yourself to be inspired, by other women, but never envious. Envy will lead to comparison, which in turn can lead to depression and motivation for the wrong reasons. God created all of us for a specific purpose. Embrace your life, gifts and talents. Be inspired, don't beat yourself down. If you ever feel that little comparison thief rising up, speak out loud against it! Say something like "It's awesome to see her doing so well, if she can do great things I know I can".

Be Inspired, to inspire another. LoveLIFE! XO 

A man I've never met


Thursday, August 1st, 2013

Today I spoke at the funeral of a man I've never met. He was a husband, father, brother uncle and friend to many. As I sat at the funeral home, unable to relate to the family in regards to losing someone that I knew and would miss, I could relate however to losing a loved one (I lost my grandfather last month).
 I felt a bit out of sorts, because I had no emotion for this man... No sadness, memories or stories... I felt numb almost... I felt like an intruder... But I was asked to read a special poem by a dear friend who is close to my heart, and so I obliged. 

[First and foremost I'd like to say that if you're reading this and you don't have life insurance... PLEASE GET SOME! Even if the policy is 5-10k. Each day that God allows us to grace this earth with our presence is a gift; the next day or the rest of the current day that we're in for that matter aren't promised to us. Don't leave your family and friends to be stressed financially to bury you. We see it all too often, a loved one dies suddenly, and families are forced to come up with thousands of dollars to meet an extensive budget to pay for a funeral.]

Funerals have a weird way of putting things into perspective. For the past week, I've been a bit out of it... There has been a lot going on in my life, and I haven't been managing my time properly which = being stressed out. When we don't manage our time properly, we are ineffective in our day to day dealings. We're unable to meet goals, accomplish simple tasks  and we're not focused or fulfilled. This can lead us to feel unaccomplished, and if we wallow in that feeling long enough it can push us into a rut. 

With that being said, many times we worry about things that really don't matter. We overwhelm ourselves with things that won't matter at the end of our lives. Just think about the things that you stress yourself with for a moment... Now think, if today was your last day on earth would those things matter? No, they wouldn't. Take time today to simplify. Take some time to refocus and reorganize your thoughts before you take on any external projects, write out your new goals, tasks, and breathe! Life is so precious. 

Enjoy the rest of your day! 




God's Goodness


He Uses Our Difficulties
















TODAY’S SCRIPTURE
“That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”
(2 Corinthians 12:10, NIV)
TODAY’S WORD from Joel and Victoria
We all face difficult situations. Somebody isn’t treating you right; your business is not growing as fast as you had hoped, or maybe you’re single and still haven’t met anyone. It’s easy to get frustrated and anxious on the inside. You don’t understand why it’s taking so long or why things haven’t changed.

But here’s a key: just because it’s an uncomfortable place doesn’t mean it’s not where you’re supposed to be. God uses difficulties to do a work in us. We grow in the tough times. That’s when our character is being developed. God will not allow a difficulty unless He has a divine purpose for it. If we’re going to reach our highest potential, we have to make up our mind, “I’m not going to live frustrated because I am uncomfortable. I’m not going to be upset because things are not happening on my timetable. I’m not going to fight against everything that I don’t like.” Instead, believe that God is doing a work in you. Believe that He has the best for you. And see yourself moving forward in the victory He has prepared for you.
A PRAYER FOR TODAY
Father, today I give You my questions, frustrations, concerns and doubts. Have Your way in me. I trust that You are at work in every difficult situation in my life in Jesus’ name. Amen.
— Joel & Victoria Osteen

Night of Inspiration!

Hello Journey Mates,

It's summer!! I haven't written in a while, I've been a bit busy! ;) Life happens. But, nonetheless I am grateful for life itself. Trials, test, triumphs and everything in between mold us to be who God intended us to be. I've learned to trust God and go with the flow. He will give us all the wisdom that we'll ever need to be successful in this life. God never promised us that we'd have a walk in the park, but he did promise to never leave us nor forsake (abandon or turn His back) us; and that's good enough for me! 

I posted a video about a week ago and didn't write about it... Sorry... Here is the revised story behind the video (a new post)! Be encouraged & never give up on your dreams!

In 2011, I started an organization with the primary goal of assisting inner city at risk youth with achieving their potential in life. This consists of community empowerment projects, mentoring, youth activities, youth empowerment summits, and academic assistance. These programs have been running successfully and the life's of many youth and their families have been touched!

Earlier this year, I was chosen to attend a fan appreciation dinner by Lala Anthony of (Lala's Full Court Life) and VH1. The dinner was held to appreciate individuals who were doing outstanding things in their community. I was blessed and humbled to spend that evening with an amazing group of talented individuals, great women and men who are doing outstanding things to change the world! People who are living their lives on purpose and inspiring others in the process! It was truly an honor! Lala was so sweet and welcoming; I left that atmosphere charged up, encouraged and ready to do more. You never know who's watching, or what the future holds. Serve from the heart and never give up! XO

Check us out: Project Hope CT


Pics from the evening!






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